Allowing yourself to want what you really want – Irrespective of what others expect from you – And to give yourself permission to change career or to start that business, is a vital part of the transition process.
It’s also so often where people get stuck, and they’re not even aware of it.
We’re not used to giving ourselves permission.
We’ve been trained to and are used to looking for permission from external sources.
Just think about it:
– At school you’re used to looking for permission from your teachers,
– at home it’s permission from your parents,
– At work, it’s permission from your bosses…
… your peers, your family, society, your culture etc.
We’re literally trained to look externally for permission.
Biologically, we’re hardwired to follow the herd, because historically, if we didn’t follow the herd, we would die.
Don’t worry if you’re stuck in that scenario, it is very, very normal, but you might not even be aware that that’s where you’re stuck.
So let’s talk about YOU.
You probably followed the herd so far.
– You went to school,
– You did the right thing,
– You got the right degree,
– You got the right job,
-You worked your way up the ladder,
…and suddenly you want something different.
Up until now, you ticked all the right boxes, you got permission, you got praise from all the right sources…
…But now you want something different.
What you want now might not be what those classic “permission sources” expect of you.
The career you want now, the business you want, might not be what your your work peers expect you to want, your family wants you to want or how society expects you to behave.
If you’re like most people watching this video, you probably want more excitement in your work. You want to be really enthusiastic about the subject, you want to be yourself.
What that means though, is that permission is not going to come from those sources that you normally seek permission from.
That is why you’re stuck right now.
Here’s what I want you to know more than anything:
Give yourself permission – Don’t wait for anybody else or expect anybody else to give that permission.
Giving yourself permission to go for what you really want – Creating that career or that business – Is the start of the most amazing career and life you could ever imagine.
Give yourself that permission, because you know what’s even scarier?
NOT giving yourself that permission, and not living the life that you really want.
I always think of this amazing quote from my fellow Dane, the philosopher Søren Kierkegaard, who said,
“The most common form of despair is not being who you are.”
Don’t let that happen to you.
All that potentially stands between you and you making that transition, is you giving yourself permission.
Welcome to emotional adulthood!
Here’s the thing, the reason why I wanted to shoot this video, is because often I find that this permission issue is very much what’s holding people back.
Even smart people, they’re really waiting almost without being aware of this, secretly hoping that somebody’s coming along and giving them that permission.
I see it again and again with the online courses that I do, and in the work that I do with my private clients: They might be getting really clear about what they want, whether that’s a different career or a different business, but somehow they hold back.
And so many times when we drill down to it, it comes down to the fact they’re waiting for someone to give them permission.
You don’t need that.
You just need to give yourself permission to go create the life and career you really want.
No need to over explain or justify that to others, because you are the emotional adult, so give yourself permission, and then go create that life, that career, that business that you really want.
If you want help with that, come over to rikke.me/kickstart, I’ve got three kickstart ideas so you don’t have to wait any longer.
Remember, it’s up to you to give yourself permission.
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