How To Be More Confident
Let’s do some myth busting, so you can discover how to be more confident. I’ll share how confidence really works!
One of the biggest myth holding smart people over 30 back from starting their own business, or from making a big change in their career, is this idea that you have to be the confident type in order to pull it off.
The Myth: “You have to be the confident type to successfully change career or become an entrepreneur”
I hear about this myth all the time with my private clients when I help them decide what the right career or business is for them. And I hear it when people find out that I help people start businesses or change careers for a living – I.e. what I do as an advisor.
People go: “Oh wow, I would love to change careers.”
“I would love to start my own business, but I’m just not confident enough.
You know, I couldn’t go out there and sell myself and blow my own trumpet, or make a really big change.”
And they sort of just leave it there.
Now, if you’re watching this video, it’s likely because you feel the same way, and I can relate to that.
But it is a total myth that you have to be born confident, or to be the confident type in order to successfully change careers or start your own company.
So let’s redefine how you view confidence, because here is what I’ve learned:
Confidence is not about who you are.
Confidence is not something you have.
Confidence is all about what you do.
Let me repeat that:
Confidence is not about who you are.
Confidence is about what you do.
So confidence can be created, and that’s the good news for you if you want to make a big change!
Confidence is all about what you do or what you don’t do.
It’s not something you’re born with.
Isn’t that amazing?
Confidence is something you absolutely have the opportunity to create.
Now don’t get me wrong, I totally get that changing careers, or starting your own business, or making a really big change can seem intimidating or scary.
But I want you to know that you don’t have to be the confident type in order to get started (pheew!).
Let me share with you what I’ve learned over the last 12 years after having advised hundreds of people on career change and entrepreneurship:
If I ask those of my clients who have successfully changed careers or started their own business, if they saw themselves as the confident type when they first started out on that transition, the majority of them would have said “No”, they were not the confident type.
But as a result of taking action one step at a time to create that career change, to create that business, they created confidence one step at a time.
That’s how you can create it too – How you can create that confidence one step at a time.
As a result, those of my clients would now describe themselves as the confident type, because they created that confidence.
That’s the beauty of it.
By taking the kind of actions that a career changer would take, or that an entrepreneur would take, you create confidence and at the same time you create your dream job, or your dream business. How good is that?
A Sports Analogy – To put things in perspective:
Let’s say you don’t think you’re the confident type, but let’s replace that with a sports analogy to make things even more clear.
Let’s say you don’t think you’re the sporty type.
I never used to be the sporty type, for example.
And I’m sure you know people who weren’t the sporty type, but then they became the sporty type.
I was born in Denmark. And every year my mum would force me to go skiing in Norway.
It was bloody cold. I hated it, and I decided I am definitely not the sporty type.
I did a bit of ballet when I was younger as well, but for most of my 20’s and my 30’s, I never really did any exercise apart from walking and talking fast ;).
What then happened in my 40’s is I realised I want to get fit because one of the most important things you can do to combat the effects of ageing is getting fit and becoming a fitness or sporty person.
How did I do that?
I could just have said to myself, “Oh, but I’m not the sporty, the fitness type. It’s never going to happen.” Instead, knowing what I know, I decided to figure out:
“How does a fitness person behave?
How does a sporty person behave?”
And then I behaved like that – I took those actions.
I started doing barre class.
I started doing exercise class one, two, three times a week, building it up.
As a result now, I can look you in the eyes and say, “Hey, I am a fitness person. I am the sporty type.”
Why? Because I behaved for long enough in such a manner that it became who I now am.
I’m sure you also know someone like that, someone who used to be a couch potato or a non-fitness person who is now a super fit and would consider themselves a fitness person, right?
It is exactly the same way with confidence.
You need to create confidence.
If you want to change career or start your own business, you need to start taking the kind of actions that it takes to create that change – To start that business or to make that career change.
My blog is full of videos about how to do that.
You don’t have to bring anything to the table in terms of already being the confident type.
You just have to take the actions to create the confidence.
There you go. That is that myth busted right there and then.
Now, I know that for a lot of people, confidence and the whole impostor syndrome is a massive issue.
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